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Sunday, June 13, 2010

A poem about being 4

Too beautiful and too true not to share.  This is for my four year old:


To A Child

THE greatest poem ever known
Is one all poets have outgrown:
The poetry, innate, untold,
Of being only four years old.

Still young enough to be a part
Of Nature's great impulsive heart,
Born comrade of bird, beast, and tree
And unselfconscious as the bee--

And yet with lovely reason skilled
Each day new paradise to build;
Elate explorer of each sense,
Without dismay, without pretense!

In your unstained transparent eyes
There is no conscience, no surprise:
Life's queer conundrums you accept,
Your strange divinity still kept.

Being, that now absorbs you, all
Harmonious, unit, integral,
Will shred into perplexing bits,--
Oh, contradictions of the wits!

And Life, that sets all things in rhyme,
may make you poet, too, in time--
But there were days, O tender elf,
When you were Poetry itself!

Christopher Morley


Spontaneous Combustion

This is Joey making a "guest" entry.

I awoke the morning of June 8, 2010, at about 4:00 AM, to a siren blast and screeching tires.  We were sleeping in the "toy room" in my parents' house in Las Vegas, which has a window that faces the street.  I opened my eyes to the distinctive sight of flashing lights caused by an emergency vehicle.  Pulling back the shade, I could see a fire engine parked on the adjacent street and two firefighters walking toward my parents' house.

I got up and started walking downstairs, detecting the smell of smoke.  The smell became stronger and stronger the closer I got to the front door, but there was no other evidence of fire.  I opened the front door and found myself face-to-face with a firefighter.  "Sir, your garage is on fire!"

I instantly went into panic mode, with all of the stupidity that includes.  I turned tail and ran to the garage as the firefighter yelled out, "Is there another entry to the garage?"  "Yes!" I shouted, running to the door.  I placed my hand on the door handle leading to the garage and started to turn it.  "Don't open it!" shouted the firefighter.  That snapped me out of my idiocy.  What was I going to do about the fire anyway?

"How many people are in the house?"  Great question.  "I don't know!  Lots!  Maybe thirteen!"  I ran to the den and woke up my brother Rob and his wife Sara first.  "There's a fire in the garage!  Get out!"  Then upstairs to wake my mom and dad, then my sisters Jennie and Liz in Jennie's room, then Jennie's friend Jordan in Liz's room, and finally my precious wife and two children back in the toy room.  Ashley had been sleeping without pants (a pregnancy thing, surely) and was struggling to put some on.  "Come on!" I yelled.  "I can't go out there like this!" was the reply.  Oh, yes, you can.  But she didn't.  I grabbed Georgie and bolted for the front door.

Outside, I was directed by firefighters to the south wall of my parents' front yard, where the eleven of us (not thirteen) huddled.  Well, ten initially.  When I woke everyone up with the news, I didn't specify that  the fire department was already present, so my father had grabbed a hose and was spraying water through the door leading to the garage.  The firefighters soon put a stop to his eager but unnecessary assistance.  They had already smashed through one of the vents in the garage door and soaked the inside of the garage.

Suddenly, a power tool was turned on and sparks began flying from the garage door.  I became very upset at this for some reason.  "They're ruining the garage door!"  I'm sure that firefighters deal with irate or upset residents on a regular basis as they smash or cut through your home in an attempt to save it.  The paramedic came over to do a medical check.  No one was hurt or injured.  No one had inhaled smoke.  Everyone was fine.

What happened?  There was a lot of speculation initially, but as the day progressed we pieced the story together.  My dad had a garbage can, his favorite garbage can, that he kept under his work bench in the garage.  The night before, several greasy rags had been thrown away in that garbage can.  I can remember in some junior high science class learning about "spontaneous combustion" occurring if oily rags are kept in a poorly ventilated area, but this is certainly not something that I thought about frequently.  None of us did.  Now we will.



The firefighters informed us that the fire had probably started to the right of the welding machine, which is where the garbage can was kept.  The fumes had probably been building up all night, for about eight hours or so.  This morning, a man in the neighborhood was going on his daily walk when he noticed smoke coming from my parents' garage.  A man driving by had a cell phone and called 911.  The 911 transcript reads: "See a lot of smoke inside house.  Smoke throughout house.  Windows now breaking.  No one came to the door.  Two cars parked outside."

A female neighbor called 911 reporting that she thought she heard gunshots.  Probably my dad's cans of compressed refrigerant exploding.  The firefighters arrived and banged on the door with no response from us.  They were preparing to smash the front door in when I opened it.  The firefighter I encountered was Billy, whose kids had taken swimming lessons from my mom and whose wife I apparently went to school with at some point.  When he heard the address he thought, "That's near Rosie Merback's house."  When he arrived, he thought, "That is Rosie's house."

My dad had an old 1950s smoke alarm in the garage.  It was a wind up alarm, no battery required, that clanged when it detected heat.  None of us heard it.  None of us heard the neighbor at the door, or the compressed cans exploding, or the firefighters at the door.  Probably because we were all up late talking the night before.

Outside on the grass, we started laughing about our situation.  "Mom, make sure you tell the firefighters that we don't all live here!"  There I am, with my pregnant wife and two kids, apparently still living with my parents.  As are my married brother and sister-in-law, and my sister and her "guy" friend.  "Do you think they noticed the Oklahoma license plate on our van?  Surely they realize we are here on vacation!" The firefighters were great.  They brought over stuffed animals and stickers for the kids, as well as bottled water and sports drinks for everyone.  Thank you to all of the emergency personnel that are ready and waiting at all hours of the day and night.





After about an hour, they let us back in the house.  My heart broke for my dad.  You have to understand some things about my father.  He built that part of the garage, which is an extension of the old, smaller garage.  He built that work bench.  Above and under that bench, he kept many of his most valued tools.  His right-angle drill, his construction stapler, his "saws-all" mechanical saw, his welder, his air compressor.  All of those things are partly made of plastic.  Plastic which melted like butter in the heat of the fire.  All of those tools and machines are gone.  Not to mention his favorite garbage can, which was a brown and black puddle stuck to the floor.





My mother kept her Suburban in the garage.  Despite Rob and Liz's best efforts, the windows are still smoke damaged and foggy.  The paint is yellow all over and missing in some places.  The work bench is burnt, though still structurally sound.  The plastic cases my dad kept his odds and ends in are melted.  The rolls of tape and tubes of caulk are ruined.  The ceiling in the garage is blackened, the garage door is in pieces, and the whole house reeks of smoke.





But we are all alive and healthy, and the rest of the house is fine.  The drywall behind the bench is toast, but the studs are untouched.  Many tools were in metal cases and survived without a scratch.  Even some tools in plastic cases made it, despite some melting of the cases themselves.  We were all awake and wired for a few hours, cleaning up, talking, and eating.  Then, at about seven or eight o'clock, we started to crash.   After 3-4 hour naps, we were all feeling much better.

I know that the aftermath has been pretty hard on some of my family members.  I hope that they can focus on the positive and not get too bogged down with anxiety and negative thoughts.  In ten years, it will be nothing but a great story to tell.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

It's BIG....

...I'm 30!

On facebook this morning I typed that I was happy today because I did my mourning last year.  You can read about that mourning process HERE;)  And it's true.  In my mind I was basically 30 on the day I turned 29.  So, today, I can enjoy it!!   I'm looking forward to this decade and considering that I almost died twice in my 29th year I'm just grateful to be alive!!  (Biking accident and House fire...more on that from Joey in a few days..ha!)  "Happy Birthday to me" and thank you to all the people that enrich my life.  What would life be without family and friends....NOTHIN'!  Happy Summer everyone!

p.s.  If you read my last years "mourning" entry you should know that I'm over being down on Botox and plastic surgery...bring it on;)

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Isaac's Park Party


Isaac's Park Party!

Similar to Georgie's party, we invited a few friends to meet us at the park on Friday for cake and Ice Cream to celebrate Isaac.
For his cake he wanted the black platform from Star Wars with red lights running along the sides and then wanted to decorate the top with his Star Wars figurines.  (Great idea Isaac because that was sooo simple (except turning lemon frosting black...we couldn't get any darker than a blue-ish gray!!  Shoulda done chocolate;)



The kids mostly played around on the jungle gyms and swings but there were a few lightsaber battles and the above game of Anakin, Anakin, Darth (Duck, Duck, Goose).



He opened the last of his presents, his favorite one being the F-16 model plane that he asked for at the air show a month or so ago.  It turned out to be a really fun little gathering.  Isaac and I REALLY appreciate all of you that came on such short notice!  Happy Birthday, again Isaac!  We love you!




Happy 6th Birthday, Isaac!

Happy 6th Birthday, Isaac!!
Make a WISH!
For Isaac's birthday this year we were in Houston visiting Papa and Gaga.  We celebrated his big day the Saturday before by having Aunt Kathy, Aunt Reta, Grandma Nina, Uncle Rick and Horace and Jamie over for dinner.  Isaac requested cheesecake for his dessert and shrimp for his birthday dinner...how old is he?  40?  It was so cute watching him during every part of this years birthday because it was evident all over his face and body how much he enjoyed the special attention.   Note to self:  give Isaac special attention more often...he thrives on it.  


So darn handsome;)


Papa kept up his ongoing tradition for Isaacs birthday by renting a costume again....Batman.  I'm not sure what happened to all of my pictures but this seems to be the only good one I walked away with.  It was pretty cool and Batman even brought him a bat mobile toy!  


Georgie was scared to death.  We found her buried in between the couch cushions after Batman left. But she's no dummy...she knew what was up!  She asked me to dress up as Glenda, the good witch, for her birthday next year...I think I'll forward that request onto my Mom...haha;)


Grandma Nina surprised them with a visit from Pretty Bird.  Thanks Grandma!  You know my animal loving kids well!
Grandma Nina and Aunt Reta also treated them to a ton of bubble toys.  The kids spent hours almost every day that we were there playing on the front porch with the bubbles...AWESOME!

For Isaacs actual birthday he woke up to find notes from Gaga reading Happy Birthday Isaac all over the kitchen.  We treated him to Breakfast in Bed which I failed to take pictures of but he absolutely LOVED!  I let him play on Nickelodeon.com while he waited for it to cook.  Then we headed over to visit Aunt Kathy at her shop and then Aunt Reta at her work.  She fed us lunch.  We stopped for Ice Cream on the way home.  He spent the evening playing with Papa.  There was more to his birthday at the park in Altus a few days later but I'll post about that later.


Isaac, would it be trite of me to say that I can't believe you are 6 already?  Because I would mean it.  I remember the day you were born like it was yesterday.  I was 23...just a baby,  and now I'm 2 weeks away from being 30.  I remember life with you as an 18 month old as being pure bliss.  I truly believed that I had the cutest, most perfect child ever born to a woman.  And then you turned about 2 1/2...those were a rough couple of years;)  3 1/2 years later, I'm finally recovering.  What I see now is a smart little boy that has benefitted leaps and bounds from getting out of the house and making a life for yourself in Kindergarten.  I see an obedient, hard little worker with a VERY tender little heart.  Your feelings are fragile but I have even seen you grow out of this a bit in the past year as you have learned to laugh at yourself and find humor in your own quirkiness.  You are really good at sharing and are almost always the first one to give up your toy to make someone else happy.  You take care of and LOVE your sister and I think you will be an EXCELLENT big brother to the new baby. You are reading extremely well but are still a bit reticent to push yourself.  On the soccer field you are a hustler and you have a strong desire to play well and be a star!  You started Basketball this year and you were a GREAT sport about being a beginner.  You enjoyed it more than we expected but still don't usually choose to play sports when given any free time.  In your free time you love to be silly, make people laugh and pretend play and are soooo good at making battle and weapon sound effects!!  You love friends and family...people in general and people like you.  I've heard through the grapevine from a few parents that all the girls at school have crushes on you....hilarious:)  But I don't blame them!  

Isaac, I love you and am so proud of you.  I'm even getting all teary over here as I type this.  You hold a special little place in my heart as the child that I want to protect and fight for as well as to push harder and motivate to fill your potential.  I know that some of this is and will be overbearing for you in your life so I'll try and temper it by holding my tongue whenever I can resist!  Happy Birthday buddy!  It's so fun watching you grow.  

xoxo
Mom



Sunday, May 30, 2010

The Life of Isaac...

Field Day:


My best Buddies from Kindergarten

Relay race...lost that baton!!

Isaac with his favorite kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Madl

First Lost TOOTH!!
Pulled by Papa!  

Cupcakes at the Park...for Georgie!

Instead of Birthday parties this year we did something a little more simple.  The kids picked out a cake or cupcakes to share with a few friends at the park.  Georgies park day was a rainy one so only our most devoted friends came;)  Thanks Bahr's, Alley's, Lilly's and Devin!  Sunny weather kicked in right about the time our party began...lucky Georgie!


I was a little bit excited when Georgie picked out the Garden Party cupcakes from THIS book.  They were adorably fun to make!





Isn't this the sweetest!!  
While all of his friends played at the park Isaac remained aware that his time with Gaga, Papa and Uncle Bryant was fleeting.  He stayed close by them the entire time.  I know I have a VERY sweet boy on my hands but I am reminded just how tender he really is when my parents come into town and actually Uncle Bryant too.  These three folks bring out the tenderest most thoughtful parts of him!  Nothin' better than a cupcake with Papa!


This takes a close second on the sweetness meter!  
Ashton and Kade...the two little people that came to celebrate G.





Georgie as Queen for a day and Snow White...her two gifts from us at the party!














Happy Birthday Beba G!!  We LOVE YOU!!